Adrian’s All – fairy tales of a jobseeker  

Adrian Phelan

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Downton Abbey movie| New job | Reflections | Presidential election | Do Good Well | Feedback and thanks  

You can always go, Downton 

I’ve come to the conclusion that I’m proper posh. I’ve never watched Downton Abbey, but I went to see the film the other night, and I came out thinking, ‘Where have you been all my life?’ I would totally fit in there; my major stress being managing luxury. And I’d look great in the clobber. I think I heard an Irish accent among the cast. It should have been me. I’m going to talk a bit more like Pierce Brosnan for a while as part of the job seeking strategy so bear with me if I bump into you in Waitrose.  

How can I help? 

Some news on the job front. It looks like I’ve landed a customer services role at a council for the next three months (ink not quite dry). I’m not sure what the sensitivities are so I won’t expand on it for now. However, for those looking, I went to a job fair on Wednesday at a Job Centre Plus and had a good chat with the Royal Mail rep. It looks like there’s quite a bit of work going for delivery drivers including a bit of postie work so if you’re looking, consider it.  

What a few months it’s been – the serious bit  

Now that I’ll be starting work again, I’ve been reflecting on my emotional journey since I found out I was leaving my last job and here are my thoughts. I had five weeks’ notice to the end of my contract. That was five weeks where I had to deliver in the current role alongside pondering/worrying what will happen when I finish. However, when I finished, all the pressure of delivering in the role was lifted and I just had the one focus, finding a new job. I was walking around with half the weight on my shoulders gone. From that point I also had autonomy over my days, and although I had a job to do to find that next opportunity, I was my own boss. It remained vital to performance manage myself, but sod it, if it was 2.30 in the afternoon and 25 degrees outside, I also owed it to myself to go down to the local lido and make the most of it. I could then work that little bit later into the evening. I need to be employed and I know that, but I will leave this phase grateful for the chance to be ‘me’ a bit more. ‘However, as Dolly Parton sang, ‘Working 9 to 5, what a way to make a living’. So onwards and upwards. (I know it’s been a hundred years since someone said that).   

Setting a president  

I didn’t want it to be overly obvious that I am Irish, but I think it was given away with the whole filim thing. Anyway, Ireland chooses a new president this week. The voter turnout will be interesting (In fact everything about proceedings will be interesting) and I am curious as to who wins. With two female candidates the forerunners, the likelihood is that the winner will be female. Our current President, Michael D Higgins (Google him now) will be a hard act to follow for a number of reasons, but whoever wins I wish them well.  

Do Good Well 

I had a tremendous response to the Big Issue picture I posted, so carrying on that vibe. The vendor I bought from didn’t want to be photographed which is fine but perhaps I should have asked before I suggested we did a video of the two of us singing ‘I’ve Got You Babe’. That would have been classic.  

It’s Black History Month and if I was still working part of my day would have been promoting this so as we’re approaching the last week of the month I want to give it a quick plug.  

Feedback and thanks  

Next week’s post is likely to focus on the fact that the clocks have gone back an hour. Even though I know it’s coming, I won’t be able to believe it’s happening. However, if among the confusion you get a minute, do let me know your thoughts on the blog. You can contact me about this or anything  at adrianphelan@hotmail.co.uk  

Adrian’s All – Fairy tales of a jobseeker

Selfie of |Adrian Phelan taken on Hitchin High Street.

Adrian’s All, post 2 

It’s off to work we go 

My big news is I did some work this week. First since leaving the NHS on 30 June. I got two days unpacking lorries at a food depot in Watford. It was the first manual labour I’d done for 30 years and it’s sufficient to say someone else is now typing this on my behalf. The doctors and psychiatrists say I should be right as rain by Monday; sooner if I stop crying. By coincidence the depot was next to where an old university friend lived so I took the opportunity to catch up with her and that was lovely, so every cloud and all that. And I was genuinely grateful for the work. I met some nice people there too.   

The job hunt continues daily. I’ll be straight back on it after typing up this blog. I’m applying for seasonal work as well as substantive stuff so I might be the face of your mince pies this Christmas.  

You’ll never Standalone 

It was the Standalone 10k last Sunday, and I won’t lie I’m struggling for a put-down with this one. It’s a very tough course but despite that I got my fastest time (50:34) since getting back into running. I started and finished the run with a good friend and was the recipient of a couple of acts of kindness that day that I won’t discuss but want to acknowledge. They can carry you a long way.  

There’s no stool like an old stool  

As extra cash would be handy right now, on Monday I applied to a local research company where you can donate your poo for medical purposes. After lying my way through the application form they came back to say that as I’m approaching 50, I’m too old for the programme anyway. How rude. My wife is selling some of her old stuff on Vinted currently so for a short while I thought we’d both be making money off our shit (boom boom). Alas, it’s not to be.   

Quick filim* nods  

I mentioned my review of move ‘I Swear’ last week and that’s released nationwide today. It’s had four- and five-star reviews across the board.  Do check it out, it’s brilliant. In other film news however, I saw a movie called ‘Good Boy’ on Monday. It was a typical horror story but told from the perspective of a dog. Ten people walked out of the screening at various points. I thought it was awful. However, if you like dogs it might be for you. To apply balance here is a three-star review from The Guardian. If you do see it, I’d be curious what you thought.

*filim is the Irish for film  

Bloody Mary  

I found out this week that my recent blood donation went to St Mary’s in Paddington. This was once my local hospital, so I’m pleased with that. I often wondered if a bit of you travels with your blood and some poor bugger is talking shite on the ward right now. Nonetheless it’s another thing for good causes that costs nothing and I’m very happy to do it. Sign up here if you can.  

World Mental Health Day  

It’s World Mental Health Day and I’m very happy to raise awareness of that. As the site says, mental health doesn’t take a day off. We all have it, be it good or bad and a big step is acknowledging that. I think I have good mental health because I do specific things in my week that are good for it, but I know it could be a different story if I didn’t. So do something nice for yourself today and if you can, maybe share this link with family and friends. 

London Ultra Comedy – you’re invited 

I mentioned in last week’s blog that I’ve signed up for a charity stand-up gig on 30 November. No one thinks I’m funny so it should be hilarious. Check your diary and if you’re free, come along with your friends. Some of you reading this have seen me do stand-up before and know I’ve had my ups and downs with it, so your support would be appreciated. I met some of the other people who have signed up last week. There’ll be plenty to unpick after the gig trust me. I already love them all.  

’cause you’re there for me too – look who I’m friends with  

I met Diabetes UK* legend Jo Brodie on Zoom this week and she was an absolute star. She read last week’s blog and got in touch with some helpful work tips around public engagement in the science field. She told me about her current projects including producing Computer Science for Fun with colleagues at Queen Mary’s. Check if your local school receives a copy and if not get them to place an order. I have tons of homework from Jo to mix into my job searches.   

One final bit for the friends’ section is a mention of my good friend Chrissy Norwich who has been super kind and helpful in signposting me to work opportunities. In return I’d like to share a link to her details. Chrissy is a Psychotherapist, Counsellor & Life Coach and has some availability if you would like to book an appointment.  

*Jo and I worked together at Diabetes UK back in the noughties  

Final thoughts 

I want to thank everyone who gave me feedback on last week’s post. Some thought I might have a piled a bit too much into it and I acknowledge that. It turns out this week’s is even longer. But thanks very much if you have gotten this far. Whether there’s two of you or 200 I’m deeply grateful.  

Do send any thoughts or feedback you have to adrianphelan@hotmail.co.uk