Adrian’s All – fairy tales of a beta male

Adrian Phelan

Post 15

Wee jobby bit| The weight of bourbon| This week’s film| Badminton and bowling| Ice, ice baby| Charity bit| Thanks| Links to previous posts

Welcome to this week’s blog  

Someone reading this post will be the 1000th visitor. I know it’s not an exact science, but I’ll take the milestone nonetheless. The regular audience is starting to settle in. There are 1,400 views for those 1,000 visits so some of you are viewing multiple times. It’s not a huge audience but it’s interested and I’m grateful for that so thank you. The rest of you now cross the street when you see me coming and that’s fine too. I owe most of you money. Either way, here’s to the next 1,000. The more the merrier and you’re all very welcome.   

Job bit  

It’s six months since my contract ended which is a milestone. I spent some of the holidays in the library on the hunt and have popped in after work a couple of times this week too. There’s been lots of students with their noses deep in course work; home for the holidays and escaping the house for a few hours no doubt. With unlimited free online access on your own device and two hours a day access to their PCs, the library really is a valuable asset. [That read like a cheesy advert which was unintended] It helps that some have toilets too. There is one I use that doesn’t and I have on occasion lost the feeling in my legs trying to keep them crossed.  

I continue to seek more certainty with my future so will keep going until I get that. We’re all into a new quarter so as ever, keep me in mind. Here is my CV. 

Mine’s a Bourbon   

I weighed myself again this week. The brief mystery of how I’ve put so much weight on was solved by an audit of the Bourbon creams I’ve gotten through over the last month. They have to go. I’m also not off the mark yet with the Parkrun this year so I need to sort that out as well. There’s no time like the present. I’m not doing Dry January, but I have cut back on the booze so hopefully that will help with shedding some pounds as well. My new suit is crying for mercy. If you’re doing anything interesting health wise in January that you’d like to share, send me an email at adrianphelan@hotmail.co.uk   

Film bit  

I went to see Marty Supreme at the weekend. Just give Timothée Chalamet the Oscar now. I think he was in every scene and had to work hard in each of them. I’m starting to think he gets the roles now that Leonardo DiCaprio would get if he was 20 years younger. I’d describe the film as a working-class Bond-esque caper with a couple of random cameos by Gwyneth Paltrow. Catch it while it’s in the cinema. It wouldn’t be as good on d’telly.   

I’m seeing Hamnet tonight. There are strong Irish connections with the writing and acting of course. I’m wishing Jessie Buckley every success with the forthcoming awards season. Paul Mescal as well but he is a bit further on with his success.     

As a quick TV/film addendum, we got the 1% question on the 1% club on Monday. In fact, with the help of our passes we got through the whole game. The 1% question was easy however and all the contestants got it. I’ll post it at the bottom of this blog.  

Physical jerks and dainty bowling 

I went bowling last weekend and I was rubbish. I usually have quite a dainty approach to throwing a bowling ball (picture that) so I thought I’d try something new and whack it this time. I came last. I’ve come to the conclusion that I have a subconscious leaning to the left. It didn’t matter which way I threw the ball, the bloody thing went down the left gully. I did have a couple of good hits but alas no strikes or spares. I’m reverting to dainty next time. More suited to a beta male, I think. 

I played badminton as well mid-week. If my bowling is dainty, my badminton is anything but. These days my body swivels uniformly around just one axis. I’m very rigid, where I used to be quite bendy. But we had the chance to shoot some hoops in the hall as well which was fun. Basketball was my main sport as a child. The club I played for, Tolka Rovers is fundraising so their teams can compete in a European league. If you think you can help them out, you can send money to their Revolut Account .  

Ice, Ice, baby 

Imagine an alliterative word before ‘freezing’ and that’s what it’s been over the last week. I took down the outside Christmas lights at the weekend, and my hands are still out there. It wasn’t a job you can do with gloves, so it was pure pain.   

But on the flip side it has been nice and sunny this week, and the wolf super moon has been spectacular. I think the one on Tuesday was the biggest I’ve ever seen.   

It’s Thursday now and I take everything back as I wade home through the rain. I hope it’s short-lived, although the phone App says different. 

A couple of years ago I fell over spectacularly in the icy snow; legs akimbo. I banged my head, and some said I was never the same again. So I’m quite wary of walking in the snow and ice now. Despite being careful, I very nearly ended up on my arse again last week. I had to do some kind of mash potato-style dance move to steady myself. I didn’t break anything thankfully, but I was a bit red-faced. 

Do Good Well  

2026 is National Year of Reading which is a vital campaign to tackle the steep decline in children’s reading. One of the leading charities supporting this campaign is Schoolreaders whose goal is for all children, regardless of background, to leave primary school being able to read well so they can go on to access their secondary education fully and maximise their future life chances. You can read all about the campaign on their website and if you’re in a position to, find out how to donate. The main campaign website also has more on what’s happening throughout the year and how you can get involved.  

Bye for now and thanks 

As ever, thanks very much for reading, particularly if you got this far. We’re 15 in now which is phenomenal.  

Let’s see where it takes us.  

Adrian  

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Post 14

Happy New Year| 50 50| This week’s film| Working week| Cancer charities| Thanks| Links to previous posts

Let’s hope it’s a good one  

Happy New Year. It’s 2 January and there’s a grand stretch in the evenings. (Someone had to say it). We had a nice New Year’s Eve, attending two parties – including a 50th birthday -and treated our fuzzy heads to a walk to a nearby village on New Year’s Day.   

I think I’m too old to mourn Christmas passing but if I could live a couple of the days again I would. We’ve had a nice time.  

The half century beckons 

Another year ending with a ‘6’ is here and I must face the inevitable. 29 September is the big day. I know plenty of water will pass under the bridge between now and then, but I’ll be gearing up for it.  I have quite a few friends turning 50 before me so I promise to put a pound in the jar every time I say, ‘I’m still 49’, as it will get annoying.   

I don’t have a long ‘to do’ list before the big day arrives. Securing my next substantial role continues to be top priority. That and an anchor tattoo for my upper left arm. Once again here’s a link to my CV. Do keep me in mind if any of your projects require extra capacity. I’m just an email or a phone call away and any tattoos or piercings can be discretely covered if required.  

Movie bit 

I saw Housemaid on Monday. The screening was full, and everyone was engrossed, so it was perfect. It’s difficult to describe without giving too much away but I can say it’s a horror with twists. Sydney Sweeney was the main star, but my hat goes off to Amanda Seyfried around whose character the story was woven. Quite a lot was asked to deliver in the role and deliver she certainly did.  

Marty Supreme is next on the list and I’ll hopefully fill you in on that next Friday.  

Off to work 

I worked three days this week and you could hear a pin drop on the commute. There were very few people about hopefully meaning the world was taking a well-earned break. I had two consecutive three-day weeks which is luxury for a contractor, so I was happy. I sense things are slowly getting back to normal now as well and I can hear the clink of decorations going back into their boxes for another year. 

Next question is ‘who will spot the first Easter egg?’ 

Incidentally, if you have dropped a pin, contact me, I have it for safe keeping.  

Back to hospital  

My Dad is in hospital again as complications with his cancer continue. I want to mention how impressed I am with the care he receives, in a setting that is just a twenty-minute walk from our house. He is looked after very well. I’m hoping his stay is short, and again, thanks to my siblings and my mother for stepping up where I can’t with looking after him.  

Do Good Well 

I researched awareness days to see what charity to choose this week and discovered that today is World Introvert Day. It was a new one on me and the website is worth a look.  

As it’s not a big week for awareness campaigns for obvious reasons I’m just going to share links to the Irish Cancer Society and Cancer Research UK.  Do donate where you can.  

Bye for now and thanks  

As ever, thanks for reading. Your feedback is always welcome so do share your thoughts with me.  

As always, I am still looking for my next substantive post so do keep me in mind. Here is my CV.   

Happy New Year 

Adrian    

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Post 5

I’m 5 | New job and Halloween | The new Bruce movie | Podcast recommendations| Do Good Well | November  

Five will make you get down now 

I’ve reached post 5 and I need to be careful not to become a caricature of myself. I’ve rounded off each of the first four with thanks, but having reached this mini-milestone I wanted to bring that to the top. I really am grateful that you’ve stopped by. If I could ask one more thing, it would be if you could tell a few people about the blog and share the link so they might read it. If you do that, I promise not to go ahead with the miniature printed version I was going to bring out as a stocking-filler for Christmas.  

What have you come as?  

Happy Halloween. It’s great that it’s on a Friday this year, with no work the next day. Oh yes, work; I did some of that this week. First time I’ve dipped my toe into something non-comms related for over 20 years and what an experience. It’s also the first time I’ve been in the office five days in the one week since before the pandemic. I’ve had to resurrect shirts I haven’t worn since I was in my early forties; and I only have white trainer socks. I’ve looked like I’ve been dressing up for Halloween all week. I need to go shopping at the weekend. Everyone in the team is lovely though, especially the colleague who is training us (a reminder it’s a customer services role) and I am very grateful for the opportunity. Ultimately, I’m glad to do something where I’m helping people while I’m searching for the next career move. On that, one thing I’ve totally forgotten to do in the blog is share my LinkedIn profile so here it is.  

Boss  

My film recommendation this week comes with a nice side story. I went to see ‘Springsteen: Deliver Me From Nowhere’ and on the way out I met a lady who was a big fan of The Boss and by accident had attended the London premiere of the film, sitting just rows from the man himself and the other stars of the movie. Her daughter had bought the tickets for the screening not knowing it would also be the premiere, so what a result. She was still beaming and showed me a few pictures. She didn’t quite catch the movie in the detail she wanted to which is why she had come again. For those who are fans, she thought it was great. I thought it was worth 3.5 stars out of 5. However, I’m now on my second warning from Cineworld for talking to strangers so I’ll have to keep myself to myself for a while. I don’t want to be barred before I’ve seen the second half of Wicked.  

Two casts in a pod  

I know I don’t look old enough, but I moved to the UK 30 years ago last month. Someone I met on the very first day (at university Halls) was good friend Martyn Housley-Smith. Martyn is a talented and entrepreneurial teaching professional and has his own podcast which explores issues and topics surrounding education and learning. In the latest episode he chats to Consultant Clinical Psychologist Dr Lucy Shoolbred who among her many roles was a consultant on the Netflix series Adolescence. Such is the growing reputation of the podcast that Martyn has been able to secure guests of Lucy’s calibre. I’m chuffed for Martyn and what he has achieved and so not to scupper his efforts I’ve agreed not to discuss our nights down at the students’ union.  

A second podcast recommendation is this week’s episode of A question of Science hosted by Professor Brian Cox who along with a panel of experts asks the question ‘Who owns space?’ I was actually in the audience for this one and if you listen carefully you can hear my distinctive clap. This is one of several episodes, all of which are worth a listen.  

Do Good Well 

I was very saddened to hear of the passing of Prunella Scales this week. I’m a huge Fawlty Towers fan and although she was elderly, I think it’s still always poignant to find out when such iconic figures leave us. In her honour I’m sharing links to Dementia UK and Dementia Ireland.  Do check them out and support if you can. 

Bye until November 

I can’t believe it’s November tomorrow. It comes as a surprise every year. And once Halloween is out of the way there’ll be no avoiding the ‘C’ word so brace yourselves.  

Have a great week and stay safe on bonfire night.  

Adrian  

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Post 4

Downton Abbey movie| New job | Reflections | Presidential election | Do Good Well | Feedback and thanks  

You can always go, Downton 

I’ve come to the conclusion that I’m proper posh. I’ve never watched Downton Abbey, but I went to see the film the other night, and I came out thinking, ‘Where have you been all my life?’ I would totally fit in there; my major stress being managing luxury. And I’d look great in the clobber. I think I heard an Irish accent among the cast. It should have been me. I’m going to talk a bit more like Pierce Brosnan for a while as part of the job seeking strategy so bear with me if I bump into you in Waitrose.  

How can I help? 

Some news on the job front. It looks like I’ve landed a customer services role at a council for the next three months (ink not quite dry). I’m not sure what the sensitivities are so I won’t expand on it for now. However, for those looking, I went to a job fair on Wednesday at a Job Centre Plus and had a good chat with the Royal Mail rep. It looks like there’s quite a bit of work going for delivery drivers including a bit of postie work so if you’re looking, consider it.  

What a few months it’s been – the serious bit  

Now that I’ll be starting work again, I’ve been reflecting on my emotional journey since I found out I was leaving my last job and here are my thoughts. I had five weeks’ notice to the end of my contract. That was five weeks where I had to deliver in the current role alongside pondering/worrying what will happen when I finish. However, when I finished, all the pressure of delivering in the role was lifted and I just had the one focus, finding a new job. I was walking around with half the weight on my shoulders gone. From that point I also had autonomy over my days, and although I had a job to do to find that next opportunity, I was my own boss. It remained vital to performance manage myself, but sod it, if it was 2.30 in the afternoon and 25 degrees outside, I also owed it to myself to go down to the local lido and make the most of it. I could then work that little bit later into the evening. I need to be employed and I know that, but I will leave this phase grateful for the chance to be ‘me’ a bit more. ‘However, as Dolly Parton sang, ‘Working 9 to 5, what a way to make a living’. So onwards and upwards. (I know it’s been a hundred years since someone said that).   

Setting a president  

I didn’t want it to be overly obvious that I am Irish, but I think it was given away with the whole filim thing. Anyway, Ireland chooses a new president this week. The voter turnout will be interesting (In fact everything about proceedings will be interesting) and I am curious as to who wins. With two female candidates the forerunners, the likelihood is that the winner will be female. Our current President, Michael D Higgins (Google him now) will be a hard act to follow for a number of reasons, but whoever wins I wish them well.  

Do Good Well 

I had a tremendous response to the Big Issue picture I posted, so carrying on that vibe. The vendor I bought from didn’t want to be photographed which is fine but perhaps I should have asked before I suggested we did a video of the two of us singing ‘I’ve Got You Babe’. That would have been classic.  

It’s Black History Month and if I was still working part of my day would have been promoting this so as we’re approaching the last week of the month I want to give it a quick plug.  

Feedback and thanks  

Next week’s post is likely to focus on the fact that the clocks have gone back an hour. Even though I know it’s coming, I won’t be able to believe it’s happening. However, if among the confusion you get a minute, do let me know your thoughts on the blog. You can contact me about this or anything  at adrianphelan@hotmail.co.uk  

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Post 3

ABBA | Job seeking update | Ultra comedy gig no more | Meeting Kieron | Turning 50 | Do Good Well | Three is the magic number  

Having the time of your life  

Sorry I’m a bit late with this week’s blog. I had family (brother, sister and brother’s girlfriend) staying which took away some computer time; but I’m back online now reflecting on a great couple of days hanging out with them locally and in London. We went to see ABBA Voyage, and I don’t want to give too much away about the show, but our collective scores out of ten totalled 42 out of 50. We congratulated ourselves on the maths with that one. We made a day of it and took in the cable car over the Thames, walked around Canary Wharf and had lunch at The O2 Arena. It was quality time and helped me to further heal from them hogging the remote control when we were 12.  

Sign on you crazy diamond  

I had a call with my JSA (Job Seekers’ Allowance) buddy this week and it was ok but we’ve established that there’s little point in taking a couple of days work here and there because it throws everything out of sync, doesn’t really bring any extra cash to support me and the family and takes me away from finding that substantive role. I have a real desire to show willing though so it’s a bit frustrating. I’ll put last week’s two days in Watford down to experience and look with optimism around the corner. A good colleague was in touch and said, ‘”You just have to keep going,” and I will.  

Ultra no more – release the date  

Please note that I will now not be taking part in the Ultra Comedy event on 30 November. It sold out before I sold my quota of tickets and they have firm rules on that. I am disappointed but I’m planning to find an open mic slot elsewhere, so I’ll let you know the details when I have them. If it’s anything like last time I’ll be on at drinking up time when they’re trying to get everyone out, so don’t come early.  

I know your name, but your face escapes me  

I’m very good at remembering faces but don’t have a very memorable face myself so I often strike panic into people who haven’t seen me for a while when I come up and say hello. On my way back from Ultra Comedy training last week, I bumped into Kieron and Sue Concannon, parents of Luke who is the singer with folk/hip-hop/alternative duo Nizlopi. I’ve met Kieron several times at various gigs, but it’s been a while. After a few bars of me rattling through our lives together, it finally clicked and we had a good catch-up about how Luke and Nizlopi are doing. I’ve included some links above I hope you’ll check out their websites, their music and perhaps consider buying Nizolpi’s first album which has just been released on vinyl. Both Luke as a solo artiste and Nizlopi as a group have an amazing catalogue so do check them out. They did two triumphant gigs at The Water Rats last Sunday but alas, I couldn’t make them. However they are returning to London to play The Moth Club on 30 November.  

I’ll go 50/50  

I went to the first of what will be a couple of years of 50ths for me and all our school/university friends. It was a top night/occasion in a club in Brixton, and we met many people we hadn’t seen for ages. Some had read last week’s blog so there was a general disappointment that we are now all too old to donate poo for medical purposes. We’re all now seeking alternative side hustles. If being there taught me anything it was that I wasted an opportunity to get people together by not having a 40th. I will remedy that next year when I turn 50 myself. It is very surreal to type that.  

Do Good Well  

I’ve not done anything for a good cause this week and to atone for walking past several Big Issue sellers without buying a copy, that’s my plea for this section. I shall buy the next one I come across. If you send me a picture of you and your big issue I’ll include it in next week’s post.

Three is a magic number  

I’ve got to three blogs now. Whether I have 3 or 300 views I’ll carry on regardless. And this is a safe space. I’d love to hear your thoughts on anything be it about the blog or otherwise. It will all be taken in good spirits. Until next Friday, have a good week. 

Adrian  

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Giving blood | Working at The Card Factory | Banter with Ryan Tubridy | Banned from WhatsApp 

Welcome to my first post.

I’m conscious if you’re reading this you could be my future boss or my parents so the content is drafted accordingly. The editor’s cut will be available privately one month after the successful completion of the probationary period of my next job.

I’m Adrian, 49 living in North Hertfordshire and currently job seeking. This weekly blog will simply hold a mirror up to how my last seven days have been. So if it’s not for you, scroll on, but hopefully something will resonate and you’ll stick around. Part of it will be about the highs and lows of job applications but it will be more general than that, so I hope you enjoy it.  

Gizza job

The job hunt is going well, but the job kills not so much. I had a first interview for a comms role at a high profile organisation last Friday but didn’t advance beyond that stage. I also didn’t progress beyond application for two other roles I thought I was a strong match for so hearing those outcomes brought low points. But you lose a match on a Wednesday, there’s another one on Saturday to be ready for so you can’t afford to dwell too much. And indeed, this blog is being written between applications.  

I’m at a stage financially where I need to keep an open mind. Substantially I’m a senior communications and engagement manager mainly within the NHS but my last application was for seasonal work at The Card Factory. And since I hit ‘submit’ all I can think about is how excited I am by the prospect of inflating helium balloons. I’ve also applied for driving jobs, which should go fine as long as I never need to parallel park or reverse into any kind of space.  

Happy Birthday to me

But despite the knock backs, it’s been a good week. I had my 49th birthday on Monday and treated myself to a trip to the cinema to see One Battle After Another starring Leonardo di Caprio, which was very good. This completed a trio of good movies for me following Stephen King’s The Long Walk and I Swear, about Tourette’s sufferer and campaigner John Davidson. The high of the week came when my review of I Swear featured in The Irish Post. It’s about 20 years since my last film review so it’s great to be a published writer again, especially in a national newspaper.  

Welcome to The Ryan Tubridy Show

My love of film led me to an unusual place on Tuesday when I found myself disagreeing with Ryan Tubridy’s appraisal of The Long Walk. He didn’t like it and I did, so I contacted his Virgin Radio show. In fairness to him, he read out my message, took my view seriously and was glad listeners could hear both sides before making a decision about seeing it. However, at the time of writing it’s Friday afternoon and he’s just doubled down on his disdain for the film, so without a voice, he wins those airwaves. I say go and see it.   

Why oh Why WhatsApp?

I’m very risk averse when it comes to posting on apps which is why I sit here completely baffled that I have been banned from WhatsApp for not following their terms of service. I have no idea what it relates to as they don’t tell you. The only thing I can think of is that there is a rule about being too boring. I’ll update next week how I get on with that.  

I’m a stand-up guy

I’m taking the opportunity during this transition period (while I’m on the scratcher) to revisit things that used to motivate me, and I’ve put my name down for a charity stand-up comedy gig called Ultra-Comedy (you know the boxing equivalent) which will take place in November. I’ve no idea at this stage how it will go but there is training leading up to it. I have an obligation to sell tickets so as the weeks go on with this, perhaps you might come and see me and support a worthy cause.  

Do good well

‘Things for good causes’ time and I gave blood on Tuesday. I was such a wuss, moaning internally about how discomforting it was. I felt the needle a bit more this time, but it wasn’t exactly childbirth. If you can donate, do, and talking about things needle-related if you are eligible for the flu, COVID-19 or any other vaccines this winter do go and have them. I will tirelessly campaign for that. Last for the do-gooder paragraph is a plug for Best Before cafes. Please raise awareness of these if you have one near you. They offer full bags of food for just £3, reducing so much wastage. It really is a good thing.  

So that’s me off the mark. Blog 1 done. Look out for the next Adrian’s All next Friday, 10 October.  

Back to the job hunt!